Reproduce "Positions to make female orgasm easier during intercourse"

The CAT position

(This stands for coital adjusted technique, but don't let that rather technical and boring title put you off!)

Basically this is a face-to-face position, but the man 'rides much higher' than he would in the missionary position so that his shoulders and head are about six inches higher up the bed than normal.

What this means is that his penis doesn't go all the way into the vagina. Instead, the stem or root of it is pulled hard against the clitoris – producing great sensations in that all-important little organ.

The other difference is that instead of taking his weight on his elbows, the man should simply let his bulk slump onto his partner's upper chest.

Clearly if he's a heavy bloke, this might be a problem!

You can experiment with this position to get it absolutely right for you. Some people do it with the man's legs outside the woman, but you can also try it with his legs inside yours.

Many couples find they can't thrust much in this position so they kind of 'rock' together.

The CAT certainly produces very different sensations from many other positions, so it's worth a try, and it might just take you to the heights of ecstasy. I hope it does.

The free-as-air position

The man lies down on his back. The woman faces the other way and sits down on his penis. Then, in her own time, she gradually lowers herself so that – with his penis inside her – her back is lying fully outstretched on the front of his body.

The woman can feel genuinely weightless and free-as-air – which is quite a novel sensation. Another bonus is that either partner can touch the clitoris easily. So it's different and fun – and usually a great time is had by all.

The Pinner position

This is a particularly good position if you feel nervous about touching your own clitoris. You shouldn't be of course because it's yours – and you should feel perfectly free to stimulate it yourself if you want to.

But the thing about this position is that many men can't really tell if you are touching it or not.

What happens is this.

You lie flat on your front and he lies, face down, on top of you. He then penetrates you from behind.

But because you are flat on the bed, you get very different sensations from any rear-entry position where your bottom is up in the air. And you can slip your hand in between the bed and your body and rub your own clitoris.

Plenty of women who have never 'come' during intercourse have found that they climaxed in the Pinner position.

The spoons position

Finally, 'the spoons'.

This is the position where you lie on your side and your man lies curled up round your bottom (like spoons in a drawer) and penetrates you from behind.

Lots of women like this, though not all of them find it easy to orgasm on their sides. But the great advantage here is that either partner can reach round and rub the clitoris. Also, neither of you is having to take the weight of the other.

“Sexual Practices and Last Heterosexual Encounter and Occurrence of Orgasm in a National Survey”

     In heterosexual encounters, women are less likely to reach orgasm than men. This has long been seen as a problem in thesexological literature Much of the research on female difficulties with orgasm or with heterosexual sex in general has focused more on indirect causes, such as upbringing, attitudes, religion, marital adjustment, anxiety, previous traumatic experiences, or the woman's relationship with her father or other figures rather than proximal causes, such as the form of stimulation received. (217)

              

       The finding is in line with data from the Australian Study of Health and Relationships indicating that people who said they had sex often were more likely both to report their regular heterosexual relationship as extremely emotionally satisfying and to find the sex in their relationship extremely physically pleasurable.Satisfaction was directly connected to sxual assertiveness, frequent sex, using many techniques in sexual encounters, and orgasm. For women, it was also connected to  young age, and for men, considering sexuality important in life, reciprocal love, and using sex materials. (218)

      For men, the likelihood of orgasm was not strongly influenced by the number of sexual practices, probably because of the high proportion of men having orgasms from a single practice, usually vaginal intercourse. For women, the results were different and suggested that it is only when practices such as oral and manual stimulation are added to vaginal intercourse that women become more likely to have an orgasm. (220)This suggests that women may be more likely to count activities as sex when they do not include intercourse, though such a suggestion is not supported by other research.(222)The heavy concentration on a few of the many possible combinations of the six practices we did ask about suggests that a fairly limited “script” for sex is well-established. (223)

Demographic and relationship characteristics were associated with orgasm, but the differences were not as dramatic as the associations with gender and with sexual practice. The associations between orgasm and demographic characteristics suggest a social class effect, with better-educated, non-immigrant women more likely to have orgasms. (224)

       Although women were more likely to reach orgasm when the encounter included manual and oral sex, their orgasms did not necessarily occur during these practices.(224)One possible explanation of the discrepancy between male and femal experience of orgasmin in partnered encounters is that men want sex more often than women, with the result that in established couples, some of the sexual interactions are what women popularly call “mercy fucks” or “freebies”.(224)

It is hard to escape the conclusion that when men is keen to have sex but the woman is not, intercourse ensues and the man reaches orgasm, but when the women is keen but the men is not, sex rarely happens.(224 - 225)Another possible explanation for the discrepancy between male and female experience of orgasm in partnered encounters is that women are intrinsically less keen on sex than men and/or less physiologically capable of reaching orgasm.(225)Manual and oral sex provide the direct stimulation for many women that makes orgasm more likely, though still less likely than for men.All of these comparisons make the naive assumption that orgasms are qualitatively all the same and can simply be counted, and that more is better.Considerable effort has been expended on the “sex problem” of women: they appear to be less interested in sex than men, they report more problems, and they are less likely to reach orgasm in partnered sex. (225)

       The proximal cause - the sexual stimulation delivered to women in the typical, rigidly-scripted heterosexual interaction- has more to do with whether they reach orgasm( as we suspect, enjoy sex) than with more obscure and distant causes. Most demographic and sexual history variables, apart from young age and non-English-speaking background, were comparatively weakly associated with orgasm. It is likely than insofar as such factors affect the likelihood of orgasm, they do so partly or even largely through the mechanism of sexual practices.(225)